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Peace and Centering In An Unlikely Place

Friday, April 24th, 2009

Guess what I found in the dish water?

Have you ever had one of those weeks where it all is just too big? It is almost as if I started the week half holding my breath and knowing that this was going to be a really full and busy week. Not the kind of week you find yourself looking forward too, rather the kind you hear about from a friend and think “why would anyone schedule their week so full?”. Last week was like that for me. I think it becomes even more painful when you realize how off center you are. Last week I was so far off center that a feather could have knocked me over. That is when I realized the dishwasher was on its last leg. Bless its heart; we have been gently nudging it along since we bought our home because it was the only item of modern convenience that greeted us. We purchased a 1910 Victorian farmhouse that was in desperate need of renovation. The dishwasher was a thoroughly welcome sight amidst the 1960’s electric stove and lack of microwave or refrigerator.

With the dishwasher broken I had 2 huge loads of dishes to wash by hand and no time to think about throwing a fit. As the hot water filled the sink the soap suds grew and expanded leaving a luxurious pillowy cloud in which I plunged my hands and furiously began scrubbing dishes. Not sure how many dishes I had scoured when my Pleasure Meter (see my blog It Pegged My Pleasure Meter) started to remember how nurturing and therapeutic washing dishes by hand can be. I found myself watching a squirrel in the yard as she (I’m assuming based on how she was multi-tasking so efficiently) scurried down the tree checking and digging up what seemed to be a pecan nut. All the while she was moving so thoughtfully and going about her duties while keeping a vigilant eye out for Murphy, her most annoying predator and my fearless Irish terrier. A bird caught my attention as it swooped across the window and landed just below the outer window sill on my heirloom rose bush. The brilliant red of the Cardinal made me catch my breath and giggle with amusement as he (nature has a way of making the males so beautiful . . . almost unfair) primped and sang with pleasure. A deep sigh escaped my lips and I realized it was the first deep breath I had taken in hours.

So this is why it is preferable to have a kitchen window over the sink. I realized how many women through time had gazed out their kitchen windows while washing the dishes and somehow felt connected to them all. . . a part of the domestic goddess club.

So what did I find in the dishwater? I found the peace and centering that comes from being in the moment. From this awareness I began to enjoy washing the dishes, feeling the warm water wash over my hands and wrists. I imagined washing away my stress, the events of the week that had been less than enjoyable and thanked that sink full of suds for bringing me into the moment with joy.

When was the last time you washed the dishes by hand? I would love to hear about what treasures you found in the dishwater.

Soul Hugs!

Marianne

It Pegged my Pleasure Meter

Tuesday, April 21st, 2009

I just polished off a box of HoneySmacks cereal . . .

I’m just setting here wondering when I actually decided that cereal was not something I ate anymore. I love this stuff! Every week I peruse the grocery store isle to retrieve the latest request for my son and am absolutely amazed how many variety of sugary substances sold as “breakfast food” there are to choose from. Me on my high and mighty health conscious horse haven’t eaten cereal in a long long time. However I do allow my 18 year old son to eat however he chooses to eat and even buy totally non-nutritional foods at his request. So, why at 4:30 in the afternoon am I polishing off a box? Because my Pleasure Meter told me that I really was craving a bowl of cereal topped with ice cold milk (now the milk part is a whole other story – but those that know me know I don’t like milk!)

Pleasure Meter? Yes, I have a well installed and fully functional Pleasure Meter that I tune into many times throughout the day to determine if something will bring me pleasure. If I act from a place of pleasure the outcome is usually easier to achieve, enjoyable to do (it is pleasure after all) and brings me more joy. As our daily lives have become more sensory stimulating (ipod, TV, computers, cell phones, bill boards, radio, internet, etc) we have become less aware of our own inner voice – our own guidance system. Pleasure has long been considered a selfish pursuit. If so then I must be selfish. For me this means that I choose to do things that bring me pleasure. Often pleasure for me includes serving others (yes, being a Soul Coach is primarily in the service of others), making choices of what or how I do those things that need to be accomplished in any given day and also giving back to my communities.

I don’t actually know when I become so in tune with my Pleasure Meter, but I do know that when I follow it’s guidance I live more fully in joyful activities, have enduring energy and life just feels satisfying.
Does that mean that if it doesn’t register positive on my Pleasure Meter I don’t do it? Often yes, I don’t do it. But sometime there are things that just have to be done and they don’t measure well at all on my Pleasure Meter. The awareness that they are not going to bring me pleasure, but they still need to get done allows me to consider other possibilities.

• Would someone else enjoy this activity more than I would?
• Can I pay someone to do it?
• Is it worth giving up doing something that would bring me pleasure?
• Does it have to be done at all?
• Could it be done in a modified way that would bring me pleasure?

How well is your Pleasure Meter working? If you rely on your inner truth of doing what brings you pleasure in life I would love to hear from you. If you aren’t aware that you have a Pleasure Meter, I encourage you to become familiar with the way your Meter communicates with you. Just by being aware that you have one and are willing to listen, you will begin to realize how much we do that is not within our Pleasure Meter.

Challenge for this week – get familiar with your Pleasure Meter. Allow yourself to imagine only doing things that bring you pleasure at least for an entire day.

Soul Hugs!
Marianne